Would You Ask Your Worst Enemy for Help to Move Towards Your Goals?

If not, you choose pride, fear of judgment, and stagnation over growth and success. All the money won’t help in this case.

Most people dream about success. They discussed financial freedom, happiness, and the life they aspire to. But very few are willing to face the brutal, uncomfortable truths that success demands. One of those truths is this: sometimes, the very thing standing between you and your goals is not lack of talent, money, or opportunity—it’s your ego, pride, and lack of desire or yearning.

Let’s ask a raw, unsettling question: If your worst enemy had the key to your dream life, would you swallow your pride and ask them for help?

This is not a question most people are willing to sit with. But if you can’t face it, you may already be sabotaging your own success unconsciously.

Pride feels good in the short term. It keeps us standing tall, makes us feel in control, and shields us from humiliation. But pride has a dark side—it can lock us into mediocrity.

Think about it:

• You avoid reaching out to someone because they once hurt you.

• You refuse to admit you don’t know something because you want to look strong.

• You hesitate to ask for guidance because you fear appearing weak.

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These small acts of “saving face” pile up, building walls between you and your goals. Pride whispers: “Don’t lower yourself.” Success whispers: “Do whatever it takes.”

Which voice are you listening to

Everyone says they want success. But desire is not proven by words—it’s proven by sacrifice.

Let’s be brutally honest:

• Would you call someone you despise if they could connect you to the opportunity of a lifetime?

• Would you admit your mistakes in front of the world if it meant breaking free of your old patterns?

• Would you allow yourself to look foolish for the sake of a greater reward?

Most people would quietly answer, No. And that’s why success remains a fantasy.

If you aren’t willing to sacrifice pride, then success is not your true desire—it’s just a wish you like to play with.

Here’s the equation nobody wants to face:

Success = Desire – Ego. Most of the successful and powerful men are shameless.

It’s that simple. If your desire outweighs your ego, you’ll find a way. If your ego outweighs your desire, you’ll find an excuse.

Think about the entrepreneurs who start businesses with nothing. They beg, borrow, work humiliating jobs, and keep showing up after countless rejections. Why do they eventually succeed? Because their hunger was greater than their pride.

Now think about the countless dreamers who say, “I want to write a book, start a business, and build wealth.” Years later, they’re in the same place. Why? Because of their pride, fear of looking foolish, and unwillingness to endure discomfort crushed their desire.

Let’s return to the metaphor. Imagine your worst enemy—someone who once betrayed you, mocked you, or stood in your way. Now imagine they hold the exact connection, resource, or wisdom that could change your life.

Would you go to them?

Most people would rather suffer in silence. They’d rather protect their pride than win. And that’s exactly why most people never achieve the life they claim to want.

Here’s the irony: success doesn’t care if you like the messenger. The wisdom you need might come from a rival. The opportunity you crave might come from an enemy. The lesson you must learn might come from failure that humiliates you.

The question is—will you accept it?

One reason the ego is so dangerous is that it rarely introduces itself as ego. It wears disguises:

• “I’ll wait until I’m ready.” → disguised fear of looking unprepared.

• “I don’t want to bother anyone.” → disguised fear of rejection.

• “I’ll do it on my own.” → disguised fear of admitting weakness.

Ego convinces you these are reasonable choices, when in reality, they are excuses that keep you trapped.

Every time you protect your pride, you delay your progress.

We often think of courage as bold action—taking risks, leaping into the unknown, charging forward. But sometimes courage is quiet. Sometimes courage looks like lowering your defenses.

• Courage is admitting you don’t know.

• Courage is apologizing when it feels impossible.

• Courage is reaching out to someone you don’t like, simply because it’s the only way forward.

• Courage is asking for help when you’d rather suffer alone.

Real courage is not glamorous—it’s humiliating. But it’s also liberating

Let’s get brutally honest again. If you had to choose between keeping your pride and achieving your goals, which would you choose?

Because that is the real trade-off.

Every day you cling to pride, you trade progress for ego. Every day you choose humility, you trade ego for progress.

The truth is simple: You can’t have both

What has pride given you so far?

• Familiar comfort?

• A false sense of control?

• An identity built on appearances?

Now ask yourself: what has it cost you?

• Missed opportunities.

• Years of stagnation.

• Dreams left on the shelf.

Pride feels like protection, but it’s actually a prison. And many people will die inside it, still clutching the bars, saying, “At least I never bowed down.”

But is that victory—or defeat?

Instead of asking: “Would I ask my enemy for help?”

Ask this instead: “Do I want success badly enough to give up the very things that keep me small?”

If your answer is no, then be honest with yourself: maybe you don’t really want success. Maybe what you want is comfort, familiarity, and the illusion of control.

But if your answer is yes, then prepare for the real journey—because it won’t just demand hard work, it will demand the death of your ego.

I’ve lived through this tension myself. I’ve seen how pride, ego, and self-sabotage block people from their potential. I’ve also felt the sting of realizing my desires weren’t strong enough to match my excuses.

That’s why I wrote my eBook—to expose these illusions and guide you through the real cost of the life you desire. Not the motivational fluff, not the clichés—but the brutal truth that you must face if you want to break free.

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Final thought

So, can you ask your worst enemy for help to move towards your goals? Maybe you’ll never literally need to. But the question reveals something deeper:

• Are you willing to swallow your pride?

• Are you willing to look weak to become strong?

• Are you willing to sacrifice ego for freedom?

Success doesn’t come to those who want it. It comes to those who want it badly enough to pay the price—no matter how uncomfortable that price may be.

So, what matters more to you: ego or destiny?

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